**This is just a draft of something I am thinking about posting on instagram and Facebook when I am ready. **
I have been thinking about how often I read to not let other peoples social media affect you that you aren’t seeing the whole picture. People only post the best part of their lives and that can make people struggling feel like they are alone or everyone has it better than them. As someone who follows a lot of of people on instagram and Facebook who openly posts about about their struggles with mental illness, chronic pain and even struggles with their body positivety they show the good and bad days I want to do the same. I know I don’t have the many followers but its important to me to not contribute to the problem. This is not about me wanting people to feel bad for me or guilt anyone I know some of my exes friends follow me hopefully they don’t see this but if they do its really not about him. It is about being honest about struggling and not pretending everything is fine all the time. So people who are also having a hard time know it can happen to anybody.
This is why I haven’t been very active on social media because I don’t want it to be a pity party or too depressing but I also don’t want to pretend everything is fine and I am having the best time is when I’m not. I see people who used to be part of my life and their social media looks like they are having the most fun and the best time and I know how that hurts to see and maybe they are having the best time and if so thats good for them because I don’t wish being depressed or having a hard time on anyone but maybe they are just posting the good times you don’t know.
I am having a hard time I was in love with someone who I spent a lot of time with and who was my best friend and when you loose that its hard. Again I don’t want sympathy but I don’t want to downplay how hard heart break can be. For three weeks I pretty much cried for at least 50% of the day. I couldn’t handle being at work for more than a few hours, I felt sick anytime I looked at food, I was so emotionally tired I would go to bed around 8pm and its not like I wasn’t trying. I didn’t lay in bed all day though I went out, I doubled my therapy, I quit drinking caffeine (besides green tea), I stopped eating any types of sweets not even a single cookie or a chocolate chip, I don’t eat fast food, I started working out again, I read books, I went out with friends and I made new friends. I still felt horrible though this sinking feeling everyday and I would cry in public in my car the most but even out with friends I would just start crying. It isn’t easy for me and I don’t think it should be its a major loss and a shock and huge change.
Three weeks something seemed to change though I started to eat again, I started to feel excited about all the projects I started, I started to cry a lot less I am nowhere near out of the woods yet and that is okay its probably going to take a long time to feel completely okay and I don’t think theres anything wrong with that.